A 50+ guy in rural Canada making up for lost time.

K.C., my hiking companion.
K.C., my hiking companion.
K.C., my hiking companion.

It has taken me a long time to get where I am, and possibly a long time to get to where I need to be. Married to the most beautiful woman alive for 21 years. I get satisfaction from my day job even though personalities can complicate otherwise routine duties. I try to get some exercise and recreation into my days for both physical and mental health. I do not spend enough time keeping in touch with friends and family both near and far, and I cannot use ‘rona…

My anger and jealousy have made periods of my life unhappy, unbearable and at times very lonely. Mostly I think it is the jealousy first, which often generates this anger. And I’ve been an asshole.

Before proceeding I am providing this disclaimer: no blame or judgment on people in my life now or in the past, only providing context and what I think is a reasonable explanation for things as they are.

My failures to adjust-cope-or otherwise deal with personal tragedies, disappointments, failures and other negative life experiences is the root of my periods of unhappiness and general assholery in…

And it is long overdue we admit to it. And fix it. Regrettably it has taken the recent murders of innocent Black lives followed by the ongoing protests stateside and beyond, plus the widespread media coverage to get white people here talking about it.

The same things are being said by Black personal acquaintances and public figures alike, giving many names to our racism: polite racism, covert racism, passive aggressive racism to name of few. Racist Canadians will put up a polite front, then behind the scenes say and do the mean things.

When I hear of some of my…


Just trying to live well and spread my wings.

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